August Birthdays

© jb katke

First off, let me say: If your beloved wife is expecting a baby, and she is sick. It’s real. Even today, after all these years, I admire women who can be pregnant and carry on with daily life. I salute them because it is not always pretty.

Our first child was born in August. I see that as a great accomplishment—it took a lot of hard work.

Pregnancy did not come easily and when it did, we were ignorant of the signs. Cooking sausage flipped me every morning with nausea staying for the day. Our toddler nephew leaning against my chest brought pain.

This was during our Navy years. My husband Dave returned from his class telling me his peers diagnosis for my ailment. He promptly marched me into the medic office to confirm what was obvious to everyone but us.

In the military, all dependents are identified by the Social Security number of the enlisted. Praise the Lord for that! My first name was not on their records, likewise my age was incorrect. We confirmed my last name with his social number determining I was me and expecting his child.

We could not have been less prepared. The first several months I was pretty much bedridden, never far from the restroom. Pepto Bismal was my lifeblood. When I could finally keep food down, I gained too much weight. A new diagnosis became apparent—Toxemia Pregnancy. In my final month I needed help getting dressed, my feet felt as though I were walking on bowling balls.

It was the day before our due date that I could not stand up straight. Dave drove me the twenty miles to the hospital at Great Lakes Naval Air Station. Doctors poked and prodded, informing me the baby was coming soon. “Go home. By the way, it’s possible you are having twins.”

Mentally I screamed you are just now making that determination? My size being an indicator. That afternoon, I called my husband to take me back to the hospital; labor was present.

It’s a boy!

Unfortunately, my milk was not coming. Little did I know breasts must be prepared months in advance. Did I mention how little we knew and completely clueless on parenting? My folks came to help, and what a help Mom was! She bottle fed little Jamie and the infant gobbled that bottle. It marked the end of breastfeeding.

In those early months, I made several trips to the pediatrician. Dave telling me, “You can’t keep running to the doctor for every little thing.”

My response, “If our son needs medical care, he’s going to get it!” What I marvel at is Jesus giving a child to parents who know nothing. What is even more amazing is the children survive!

Years later, Jamie provided us his wife, with an August birthday. Reason two to celebrate!

Speechless

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Today was an exceptional day. I was speechless.

This is how the scene unfolded. Unlike our current situation, a new, normal, school year was approaching.  I joined other mothers bombarding the mall to nail as many clothing bargains as possible.

With my son and daughter in tow we foraged through clothing racks with fellow shoppers. The department was in disarray.  Pint size shoppers were clearly tired of standing in long lines just to go into the fitting room.

A loud voice arose above the crescendo around me.

“Why on earth are you have bringing another child into this world?”

The question was directed to me.  I was noticeably pregnant with our third child,

“You already have a son and daughter, there is no reason you should have a third child.”

I wonder what she would have to say if she learned that at one time, we talked of having four kids?

I was speechless. Those that know me can appreciate that.

What can you say to an obviously irate woman? She had taken it upon herself to confront me over something that was none of her business.  There was some talk of zero population growth in the news.  Apparently, this woman was of that mindset.

If she only knew.  Some women can get pregnant easily. Not I.  When I was a child playing outside I had an accident.  My self-entertainment was climbing on the trunk of dad’s car and sliding down.  Automobiles of the 50’s with the bumper guards weren’t good for that kind of play.

Had I been more alert to the harm they could inflict, I would have been mindful of where exactly I was sliding down.  But I wasn’t.  It wasn’t until I came in the house that I realized I was bleeding profusely. I can recall no pain, but marveled that mom had something on hand to address my issue.

Before the day was out I found myself in the doctor’s office getting stitches.  It has been my self-diagnosis that explains why I’ve had trouble getting pregnant.  All that to say, every one of our children took work and are treasured.

That happened many years ago, yet I’m still amazed at the encounter at the store.

My take-away from the experience is I can’t understand where people are coming from until I have walked in their shoes.  Maybe she would like more children but for whatever reason can’t.

Each of my children has been a learning and growing experience for me.  Without them I would have missed that.

They are no longer children, but the joy they continue to bring me is priceless.  I’m convinced our experiences are opportunities to become what the good Lord has in mind for our life.